wanted to post day2-4 of the IIT culturals.. but moving off tangent here.. i have never thought of myself as selfish or demanding.. im not talking about the materialistic nature/ or life.. (i too deand my pink i pod and the like:). im talking about relationship with people. any relationship.. nothing in particular.. i have always thought of myself as sort of like an island and 'thrive' on the fact that i dont need people. but without realising it we make demands of people. we expect them to love us the way we love them. react the way we react. sure i harp on and on about difference, and how we need to repect it... but i dont think i respect it to get to others. and more than anything i think we/i should practice whatever the hell it is we are preaching!!
but i expect so much from any relationship around me.. and i expect things to come in the tidy little package that i want it to.. which again brings up the fact that its my way on the highway.. but i guess that isnt the way things work.. and more often i end up wondering if there truly are people i can relate too...
and i ronically today my father sent me mail ( no no he's in the same city next door even.. lol..) it was a forward.. and my first reaction to forwards is deleting them. but one line in that whole email stayed with me.. 'just because someone dosent love you the way you want them to, doesn't mean that they dont love you with all that they have'...
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let me be honest here...it dosent work that way with everybody...
when ur doing the "my way or the high way" thing....ur jus closin doors to negotiation...being rigid...
and that dosent go well with people who are in relationships with ya...
but then....i am not sayin u have to go around pleasin ppl...what i am sayin is that if u want a relationship to survive....u have to be flexible.....and sometimes look at things from the other side of the equation...
ultimately..the way you look at people..might not be the way they look at you...or even themselves for that matter...
and abt preach Vs practice...dont worry ..(everyone does it...trust me)..the good thing is that you know it abt now...better late than never.. :)
phew...wanst that a lecture...!!
The last line, is so true . It keeps me going. My sister told me that once, when I said, but he doesn't do this for me, or do that for me. And when she said those lines, it all made so much more sense. I'm a believer !
@ sreicanth: yes i know! which is why i wrote the damn post... it has to whack me in the damn head for me to get some things clear :)
@ schmetterling: now tht i know abt the love part.. i wonder how i am goin to recognise that someone truly does love me with all that he/she has???!!! i guess it starts with being a lil less self involved..
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